The past few days have been rough at night. Both kids have been waking up multiple times. Last night was the worst of them. It all started around 11am and by the time they settled down, it was almost 3 am.
M and I were beyond exhausted. Lets hope tonight’s a better night.
Poor V. She’s so congested. We suspect it’s teething. She woke just after 9pm – which she never does, and was calling out for me. She couldn’t breathe and even gagged while nursing. I think it’s going to be a rough night for her.
It never seems to end. It’s like lifelong learning – you just don’t stop. I’m talking about sleep training. For those of you who have your 1st child, don’t ever think that once you sleep train them, that’s it. Unless of course your child happens to be in that 3% of good sleepers who just NEVER gave you grief about sleep.
Ask M or I, ever since Z was born, we have NOT slept in – the latest is 7am. Yeah, and it’s usually ONE of us only. We love our kids to death but sleep has always been a challenge with them. Every other area of development, they are more than perfect. In fact, they are such big foodies and funny and have huge personalities – yes, even Violet, who is just 6 months old.
I have a sick confession to make. Ok, ready? I still keep a sleep log for Z, who will be three in August. Yeah, it’s an obsession. He naps once for about 1-1.5 hrs (when he is sick) and sometimes up to 2 hrs. Every nap and wake-up is different. There is no pattern, except that it is random. So I’m always on my toes when it comes to being ready to get them when they wake up.
This winter, both kids have been sick more than their fair share of times. Perhaps it’s because they are exposed to other kids at the school I take them to. Another huge factor is that Z LOVES to pick his nose, even in front of others – I really think he forgets and just gets carried away. You know that feeling…where you almost have it and you just need a few more tries to get it out. So, V has been sleeping in the carseat at night for about a week now, and Z has been waking up at weird times, sometimes for multiple times at night.
Yeah, about Z…he calls out for M after he is out down and when he wakes up in the middle of the night, or at 4am, and M was going because he felt bad that Z was sick and coughing and did not want him to be worse the next day. Then, the other night, M brought in the “black cushion” so he could sleep on the floor in Z’s room. Well, last night was the last straw for both of us. I went to get V at 1:30am and accidentally lifted her car seat and it made a loud thud on the floor and woke Z up. (Damn, these light sleepers, eh?) So M went to him, not once, but FIVE times. And he even lost his patience and yelled at Z to go to sleep.
Well, today, I talked to Z and explained to him that we will not be going to him at all and that he should just go back to sleep, without the screaming. After M put him down, within 2 min, he was up. And I watched him crawl out of his blanket, sit and move his loveys aside, move his sippy cup from the top right corner to the top left corner. That spot is his “screaming” corner. He has figured that it is the closest to the door and we would be able to hear him the best from there. (Smart bugger!) So he screamed, and after 4 minutes, he gave up and grabbed his loveys and laid down on his tummy to sleep. And that was it.
Sleep training him used to be so hard for me. In fact, I had to leave the house the very first time we did it. He was 19 months then. I think we’ll be doing this with V as well, but sooner.
Night waking for V have been strictly just for feedings for the last 2 months. I have not had to change her diaper because of poo in that long. So it’s always been a breeze going to her and feeding her for a few minutes and going back to sleep.
Tonight, she had a lot of gas for some reason. To top it off, she was in such a happy and alert mood – like totally awake, I kid you not, when I picked her up. It’s the kind when I get her after a nap or morning wake up. Alter she fed, she pulled off the breast and stared at the shadow of the rocker happily smiling at it. Strangely enough she had a shart so I changed her anyway.
Now she’s in the crib, slowly falling asleep. I listen for her since I can’t see her eyes because she’s facing away from the camera. As I returned from the bathroom I noticed Z’s door open so I closed it, thinking M must’ve left it opened before. Strange, I thought.
Then it dawned on me what happened when I returned to our bed. z had woken up. Apparently he woke up balling his eyes out, saying he can’t sleep anymore and he’s scared of the shadows. So M had to pick him up, calm him and sing him back to sleep.
Just as I thought V was slowing down, I switched back to her on the video monitor to catch her slamming down hard on the mattress with her arm and saying, “Aayah yah yah…”. It sounded like she was in a native drumming circle because she has one of those plastic covered mattresses (yeah, the kind that would make you sweaty if you slept on it).
Hope she goes back to sleep soon. This is not how we imagined the night would go. But then again, every night for us is an adventure in sleep, sadly.
The honeymoon phase had ended. It started yesterday with short naps and more than 2 wake ups at night. I was really enjoying those 1 hr down times. Darn. I wonder how long this will last for?
Today, as I laid in bed anticipating her wake up, I tried to fall asleep. I couldn’t. And before I knew it she was already rubbing her eyes and waking. So, here I am, nursing and blogging, hoping she’ll go back to sleep soon