I’ve decided to start up the 365 again. I’m finding that I don’t take photos of the kids as much anymore. So here goes.
“I want a treat.”
“mommy, do you have a treat for me?”
These are the questions I get from Z everyday after I pick him up from the Fun Bus. Today, I treated him to 2 starburst candies. He ate them on the ride home and had this pure enjoyment the entire time. It’s an “Eating a Starburst for the first time quiet.” (btw, I love that book. So cute!)
Since the first night of ST, I must say there has been progress. The last few nights have been pretty quiet, with crying happening mostly in the morning after 3 am. Although I have to admit that Vs naps aren’t that great.
Starting from last Friday, she had no nap at all. Sat her nap was short and it was a battle to get down in the crib, unlike night time. Today was also short. I had to walk her in the stroller for a while before she fell asleep. Even then, it was only 45 minutes long.
Im worried that she’s trying to drop her nap. I hope not as Z still naps. This is the 2nd week if ST for her.
Z went to bed later tonight. He had a late wakeup from his nap, so I thought we’d let him just enjoy some time with us while V went to bed early. (She had a 30 minute nap and fell asleep before 7pm.)
I decided on a whim to bake some yogurt cake. Z had to go potty for #2 and while he was on the potty, he called out, “Mommy, can we make cookies?” I told him that we couldn’t tonight because it would take more time. And he asked me why the flour was out on the counter. So I explained that I was making yogurt cake. “Can I have some when it’s done?”
Of course, he could. So we read on the kitchen floor, in front of the oven, while the cakes baked. I used these cute silicone molds we bought from the Superstore. Hearts, flowers and teddy bears.
When they were finished baking, M helped me take some out of the mold to cool. Z then said to me, “I don’t want to eat the bear.” He said with a sad voice and face. So I said he could eat the heart-shaped one instead. It was delicious.
After he finished his half, he asked if he could have more. I grabbed the bear-shaped one and I showed it to him up close. Then he said, “We can eat bear. It’s just a muffin!”. And so we did.
Last night, M and I got to go on a date. We went to Tea For Two up in Markham. It was nice to just sit, snack, surf and share. Then when we got home, M convinced me to go for a short walk around our street. It was nice.
As for Vs sleep, she woke up the first time around 9 but went back to sleep on her own. 11:30 was her second wake up and I went to her, thinking that she needs to nurse at this time. Well, it turned out to be a bad idea because she woke up almost every 1.5-2 hrs after that. And then she refused to go back in her crib at 5:30am and just cried until M got her.
I was exhausted today.
Here’s what’s happened so far for tonight.
7:15pm fell aslee
9:12pm woke up
9:30pm fell asleep
11:02pm woke up
11:10pm fell asleep
11:34pm woke up
11:45 back in bed and protested for 3 min; laid still and fell asleep at…
11:50pm. Time for ME to sleep now.
3:15am woke up
3:30 nursed and changed her (diaper leaked)
3:49am back in crib (quiet as Iaid her down. Gave her the pep talk and she was ok.)
3:55am fell asleep. (Yes. I can squeeze in another 2 hrs at least. My eyes are burning as I type this but I’m happy and proud that my baby girl stayed in her crib all night!)
Z has started showing interest in playing board games. Our collection is slowly growing. First we started with Candyland, which he loves. Today while at Chapters, I came across Shopping Cart Dash.
Earlier on today, we tried playing a game. With V around, it’s sort of impossible as all she wanted to do was put the coins in the slot, therefore spilling all the food cards out. So I offered Z a round after V goes to sleep and he happily agrees. So after playing a round with M and Z, I encourage him to choose 2 books to read. (He was wanting to play Candyland and I had to dissuade him.)
He climbed up on the couch to have a closer look at the bookshelf. Wicked Plants. That was one of the books he chose. No, it’s not a kid’s book. I bought it for M and I. Before we had kids, we used to read more books and I really enjoyed reading aloud to M. He also enjoyed listening to me read. It all started when we used to take road trips (this was before I got my drivers license – I know, late bloomer.). He would drive and I would read (after which, I would doze off. Lol). Then I would also read to him in bed, which would also put him to sleep.
I think the part of the reason why he is so drawn to the book is because of all the strange and weird things in it. He would always ask about what certain words meant. Tonight, he asked me what the word “inspired” meant. He listens so intently when I explain things to him I love it. So inquisitive. He used to look for the pages that had illustrations of people getting afflicted with withe other the poison or the thorns form the plants. He would study the diagram as and ask us to tell him what was happening to the man.
Tonight, he was happy with with just listening to me read even without the pictures. I love times like this. He was so calm and quiet.
As for V, we sleep trained her for her bedtime. This is the second night and she woke up 2 hrs after falling asleep. We were fighting to not go to her. I watched her the entire time she was awake. She started quiet and slowly got frustrated and cried out. She couldn’t find her bear and would get up each time to call put to me and M. Then she’d say, “Bebe”, meaning her bear. After 15 minutes or so, she went back to sleep. She did try to call out 3 times to see if anyone come. When we didn’t she just gave up.
I’m hoping she will be trained by the end of this week. I’m not sure how long she will last all night in her crib. But you know what this means for us? Date nights. Yes, that would be nice.
Ok, I will admit, we’ve had our share of nannies we went through. At this point in time, we’re just going to stick it out. Our first nanny really spoiled us. The house was always clean, the kids were well taken care of and always happy.
Our crest one is 18-turning-19. Each, we took a chance on her when we hired her. She is great with Violet and we are totally happy with her in that way. It’s been z2 months now and we’ve been having to pick up after her slack on the weekends. Tonight after I put the kids to bed, I did a lot of things and my hands feel dry and I’m exhausted.
Starting with laundry – 2 loads folded.
Kitchen – sinks washed, recycling and compost emptied. Ceramic cooktop cleaned.
AirBnB apartment – put bed linens on. Cleaned up kitchen. (M did the rest of the cleaning – vacuuming and disinfecting.)
Dishwasher – emptied and put away a full load.
(I just pulled my shoulders back and down to release some tension and it felt great. I’m thankful I don’t have to teach tomorrow as I’m chaperoning a class of grade 7s to the Science centre.)
This weekend, we decided to separate Z and V. We needed to start sleep training V again and I think that having them
Share a room isn’t beneficial to anyone at this moment. V always ends up in our bed way before midnight so Z is always left by himself. Come morning after he wakes, he just wants to come in our bed, too.
Last night, during the bedtime routine with V, which was taking too long, I gave up. I gave up nursing her because all she wanted to do was play. She first pointed to her bed and when I asked her if she wanted to go in her crib, she said yes. Inlaid her down and she was lying down for a minute or
two before she got silly.
Patting her mattress, she indicated for me to lay down on her mattress. I had to insist that I couldn’t but she was persistent. After a few minutes of persisting, she gave up and asked to be picked up. So I did. I nursed her again for the 3rd time, in an attempt to sleep her, but had no luck.
So I placed her in the crib gently, saying good night to her. She immediately started crying. I left her room to go and monitor her on the video monitor. Her cries escalated to desperation and M took over watching her while I went to read to Z. I could hear her screaming from his room.
By the time I came back from his room, she was out. 7:45pm. 15 minutes of crying and screaming. I felt relieved. And hopeful.
Around 9:02pm she woke up and started crying again. We watched her on the monitor and she laid back down after 15 minutes. An hour after that, she woke up again. I went to her, nursed her and tried to put her back in the crib. But I was not lucky so I just brought her into the bed.
Z had a rough night, too. He woke up 3 times and super early -5:30 am. Needles to say, every night is unpredictable for us.