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Today, while M went into school to do some work, I walked the kids in the double stroller. V needed to nap so we walked towards M’s school neighbourhood. Once she fell asleep, we stopped by Cassandra Park so Z could have some playtime. They had a sand table, which was really more like a mud table since kids had put water in it and it had been sitting. Z was only happy to play with it.

He got his hands dirty and I just didn’t make an issue of it. Besides, I had a change of lclothes in the bag with me. I noticed V woke up because I could see her peering from behind the cover on the stroller. She pulled aside the cover to see where she was and what was going on. Once she spotted her brother playing, she, too, wanted to come out and play.

So I did. She was still in her pjs.

I started her on the swing. She loves it. I think she enjoys the wind in her face and through her hair. I love that feeling, too. Who doesn’t?

The playground equipment was perfect for her because everything was short and low. Plastic and wood. Fairly safe for her. She was barefoot and there was sand everywhere. But it’s just sand. It brushes off.

So I let her walk around. There was a little bench inside the roofed part and Z sat on it. I brought the grapes and cheese stick for the kids to snack on. I also grabbed my iPhone. We had a clubhouse that was blaring music – Katy Perry, FUN, Rihanna. The kids were having so much fun. I was, too, watching them.

Then V saw Z go down the slide and that was it. She wanted to go, too. So I let her. The slide was short and had a long flat end so she stayed on it and didn’t fall off when she got down there. Z loved having his little sister in the slide with him. He would go down first and stay there until she came down. It made him laugh when she hit the bottom and bumped him with her feet as she stopped.

Again, mommy. Again.

V had so much fun and I have never seen Z so happy to have her playing with him. It’s so different at home. They always ling fight over toys – it’s mostly him yelling at her for touching the toys he is playing with. So funny.

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Our Parenting Style

Growing up, I had two very parenting
styles – mommy and daddy. Mom was always the stricter one, not showing too much emotions and a lot of tough love. As a kid, it’s hard to buy that. Dad was always the gentler and more patient one – maybe that’s why I was a daddy’s girl.

Now that I’m a parent, I have my own style, and thank goodness M and I have compatible styles. Ever since both kids were babies, I’ve always had them close to me – preferring to wear them for naps and walks and even exercise classes. I loved it – I knew I wouldn’t have it for long and I wanted to enjoy that. Like breast feeding, it’s a beautiful closeness I can have with my baby. I wouldn’t change anything.

I guess a lot of what I do is classified under attachment parenting. I believe in it – I think it definitely has benefits for the child. Z is so close to me that whenever I’m at his level, whether the floor or the bed, he’s always hugging me, nuzzling my belly and just being close to me. Some people may call him a mama’s boy. Call it whatever you like, we are just tuned to each other.

He just turned three about a week ago but if you closed your eyes and heard him speak, you would think otherwise. Z is a vibrant, sensitive, creative and intelligent boy.

Having said all that, he has a very hard time being separated from me. We have not been able to make him feel comfortable about him being left with others. The only person we have entrusted him with is his former nanny. He even refuses his grandparents, let alone strangers. Camp was hard the first few days.

Today, while at a playground, he was playing with the mulch, putting piles of it on this spinning thing. He’s three and that’s how he plays with it. Two older kids came by to use only to find it covered in mulch. Z was right there and overheard the older boy say, “That’s not cool.” as he and his friend brushed the mulch off.

Suddenly I watched Z’s body language and facial expression change. I knew he was upset.

He cried in the car. My three year old was offended because he felt the older boy’s action was mean. (Secretly, I thought that boy was a jerk for saying it loud. He obviously didn’t think Z would hear him.)

Now V is also very in touch with her emotions. When the two play together, she is always generous and giving. This afternoon after Z came down from his nap, V leaned in to look into his face, as he was on the iTouch, as if to say “hi” and check on him. She is sweet as sugar – giving lots of kisses to us and smiles and waves to strangers.

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Getting ready in the morning is usually a challenge for us, especially when both kids are awake. This morning, while M sleeps in for another 30 minutes, I get myself and the kids ready. I put both of them in Z’s room with the gates up. As fast as I can be, they still are impatient and are whining about coming out. So as I brush my teeth, I gave both of them their toothbrush as well. And that’s how I bought 5 more minutes of time to get ready.

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Childcare dilemma

We have recently run unto a dilemma with child care arrangements. Prior to our trip to Amsterdam, we made arrangements for a home daycare for the kids for when we return to work. We knew the nanny wouldn’t get here in time.

On Tues, we dropped the kids off for 2 hrs at the home daycare and we got to go for chiropractic services. Z was crying even before he got out of the car but was distracted quickly with the Octonauts on tv (it’s his favorite show). V didn’t even cry. we told him we’d be back soon – around 11:30am.

Off we went, all nervous for the kids. I’ll admit, it WAS nice to be without the kids but we missed them! By the time we got there to pick them up, all we could here from the car, as we pulled up across the street, was Z sobbing and crying really hard. We got worried.

We found out that Z was good until a few minutes before we got there. It seems he was miserable there. V was happy to be around the girls. I quickly scooped up my boy to give him a tight hug. Apparently, V slept for 15 minutes in the playpen upstairs and cried for only a little bit. I was happy to hear that because I didn’t think she would sleep at all.

Then just yesterday and today, M and I were talking about the daycare situation there. We really do not approve of it – regardless of he fact that it is cheap. For $35 a day per child, I still expect someintellectual stimulation and creative playtime that doesn’t involve having the tv on the entire day. It makes me upset every time I think about it.

There are some other things that concern me. For example, she has no video monitors anywhere so how does she know if V actually slept? We discovered that V has a sore throat because her voice is a little hoarse today. Maybe she was crying for a lot longer than what she told us. How could she possibly hear anything with the tv running and all the kids around?

It happened to rain that day and so the kids all stayed indoors. Who knows what they do all day? Besides, I don’t think she CAN do much with them. I didn’t see any books or educational toys at all. I just can’t take it anymore. We are not sending our kids back there again.

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This week has been a very busy and stressful week. Why? Well, it IS the last week before we go back to work and that makes Zander very anxious about being apart from us. (This has been giving him a lot of nightmares every night – 3-4 times waking up upset.) Secondly, we have no childcare arrangements for the kids when we return to work. Thirdly, M and I have not gone into to work to prepare anything yet. Lastly, the house is a mess. Nonetheless, we are still trying to enjoy our time together.

Anyhow, we had a busy day today. The teacher rally was today and we took the kids down to Queens Park. We left the house earlier and found parking. Then we walked to Rol San for dim sum since Z was claiming that he was hungry. V was not interested in eating because she was just tired. She fell asleep on the way to Queen’s Park – but for only 20 minutes. We stayed there for about 1 hour and left because the kids needed to nap. Z had a short one – 30 minutes only.

But we found a playground on Hoskin that was awesome and Z had a great time while I walked with V for her nap.

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Z was so tired and silly at dinner time and this is what he was doing.

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(I’ve been lagging in my posts lately. I’m trying to keep up since I will be back to work soon and I’m sure I’ll be even busier.)

I never thought Z would be so into playdoh as much as he has been for the last 2 months. Ever since he watched Jamie Oliver’s podcasts, he has been interested in cooking. He loves to pretend cook with his playdoh. I occasionally find him talking outloud as I’d he was in camera – it is so cute!

His favorite kitchen skill to practice is cutting. Even when I’m in the kitchen prepping, he asks to help. So I once gave him a butter knife and some tomatoes to cube. He knows the lingo – its great. I have a budding chef.

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Sleep Training Update

It will be a week tomorrow since I initiated sleep training with V. The 3rd day was the best one since she stayed in her crib all night and didn’t have frequent waking.

Lately she has been teething – upper front two teeth are slowly coming out. I can see them there and they have partially broken skinning the gums but not out out yet. So her night times are rough, waking every 2 hours. Last night I just brought her in around 10:30 so she could at least just nurse on demand.

I’m hoping the teeth come out sooner so she can have much better sleeps. We want to sleep train her for naps as well. Besides she is starting home daycare tomorrow for half a day. I’m worried for Z and V. More for Z because he always dreads when we have to leave his side.

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The summer is ending. Oh no! M and I are trying to spend more time with the kids before we go back to work. We met with our friends and their 2 girls at a park with a splash pad and spent the morning there.

The kids had a blast and we had some takeout food from the First Markham Place for lunch. It was a nice and fairly relaxing time. Z discovered that if he put a ball in the upward sprinkler that the ball would stay ” afloat” from the water spraying. It was so cool – like a Eureka for him. I think he was proud of what he discovered. I am.

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Saturday’s are great for many reasons. One of them is the Evergreen Brickworks. We headed down there just after 9am and found ourselves very glad we did. The Farmers Market was
teeming with fresh produce. The lovely golden beets and colorful carrots screamed put to us so we bought 3 bunches. I have never had such delicious beets before. The golden ones make the red ones pale in comparison.

We were a little late for the Hands in the Bowl program, but managed to join in anyway. It’s a great kids cooking program that has a max of 12 participants. Z got to make bean dip today, even though he didn’t like it. (He even expressed his dislike for the food. Then on the way out, he told the coordinator that he will be back and that, “next time, I will choose what I want to make.”. V got to wear an apron, too, so she didn’t feel left out.

After, we headed to the Chimney Court. It’s a great space with plants and water collecting structures. Nice thing is that the kids can water the plants with watering cans available. As well, they had a cattail seed mud ball making activity that Z thoroughly enjoyed. After the seed balls were made, Z got to throw them into the water. That part was fun for him. (I didn’t get to see it because I was napping Vin the stroller.)

Then it was lunch time. The highlight was Jamie Kennedy’s fries. The best fries, hands down. So good. We also got grilled cheese sandwich since Z was not eating the taco salad we got. I think it was just too hot, noisy and overwhelming for him to eat. In the end, he did.

It was a packed and busy day. A great way to spend a nice Saturday morning.

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A family membership has its perks at the Toronto Zoo. It is so close to home and we love packing a picnic. Both kids love the splash park and its a great way to play outdoors without overheating. Our picnic consisted of ramen noodles, rice, miso soup, lots of fruits and drinks, that I packed in our cooler bought from Canadian Tire on sale.

Picnics are Not as intimidating as most people think, especially when you have kids. I got Z to help me pack the cooler and he loved it. For food, I decided to bring along these little plastic cups, which were so handy. I put a little bit of noodles and soup and one can just drink the cup of noodles. It’s also easy to feed the kids.

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